Thursday, July 24th, 2008
Wed. July 23 2008 - More often than not, homosexuality within the South Asian community is frowned upon. But slowly, that's starting to change says a support group for gay and lesbian Sikhs in Metro Vancouver.
This year, Sher Vancouver is coming out loud and proud with its first ever float in Vancouver's annual Gay Pride Parade.
"Even we don't know what the float looks like yet," says Sher Vancouver founder, Amar Sangha.
"The woman in charge of decorating it has kept it a secret so I guess we'll all have to wait until the day of the parade to find out.
But we do know that it's not just going to be a Sikh float — it's going to be a South Asian float."
Sangha, 36, started Sher Vancouver in April after realizing that the South Asian gay community had no support group that fully understood the cultural challenges it was up against. Sher, which now has over 50 members, acts as a beacon of compassion for those struggling to come out to their families and friends.
"There is a generational difference for how Sikhs look at homosexuality," says Sangha, who lives in North Delta.
"Most younger and educated people who are familiar with Western culture are supportive. But in the end, the more people who come out of the closet, the easier I think it will be for South Asian gays to come out."
Sangha, a proud Sikh, says it was difficult to tell his family he is gay. To this day, his sexuality raises a gambit of issues, including how the family presents itself to the rest of the Sikh community, including its more traditional elements.
"My mom was supportive but my dad and his family still feel being gay is a choice," he says.
"They don't want me to be out in the media as they suffer a backlash every time I do an interview so I'm trying to tone it down."
Despite a culture that largely condemns homosexuality, there is nothing about the Sikh faith itself that takes a definitive stand on homosexuality one way or the other, says Sangha.
"The Sikh holy text isn't really solid on the issue," he explains. "It espouses tolerance and acceptance so even though it doesn't say anything about homosexuality, many people feel these values can be applied to all aspects of the human race.
"These are universal rights. They should include all gays and lesbians."
By founding Sher Vancouver and creating a strong presence in the media and in the community, Sangha hopes more gay Sikhs will be encouraged to come out.
So far, his group has raised $1,200 toward the construction of its $1,800 parade float.
"We're in a bit of a cash crunch," he admits. "Anyone interested in making a donation can e-mail me at amar_sangha@hotmail.com
Sikhi Stance On Homosexuality!
Sikhi teaches the path of truthful living and righteousness. The definition of truthful living is when you live a life according to Gods will. When one is corrupted by darkness and evil desires they live a life based on sin. Sikhs do not even cut their hair as they believe the hair have been put their according to Gods will. Anyone with common sense will know that God has created man and women to reproduce, this is a law of nature and a design of Gods will. Homosexaulity is against the will of God, in the same way as cutting ones hair is to a Sikh. Homosexuality is illegal amongst Sikh ethics and the Sikh code of conduct. The doors of the Gurdwara are open to anyone without any discrimination, but Sikh institutes will not carry out:
2: A Homosexual wedding.
3: Recommend the adoption or fostering of Sikh children to Homosexual couples.
The above three situations are there to protect Sikh ethics; any institute going against these is breaking the code of Sikh ethics.
In Sikhi Homosexuality is seen as devil like behaviour, although Sikhs do not see as a crime like some other religions. A person has the right to do what they want behind closed doors. But Sikhi in general does see homosexuality as a form of Maya (illusion) which keeps one away from Gods will. Homosexuality is defiantly seen as a form of Anti-Social behaviour by the Sikh religion.
This leaflet is not intended to offend homosexuals, but it is giving the honest view of homosexuality by the Sikh religion.
Everything else is false. Whatever pleases Your Will is acceptable. Ang 16 Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji
The blind have forgotten the Naam, the Name of the Lord. The self-willed manmukhs are in utter darkness. Ang 19 Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji
O Nanak, the Boat of Truth will ferry you across; contemplate the Guru. Ang 20 Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji
The Gurmukh knows the Divine Light, while the foolish self-willed manmukh gropes around in the darkness. Ang 20 Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji
Frontlinepunjabi youth:
You cant be a sikh and gay, it dont work its like trying to put two swords in one case. This poeple if they want to be gay be gay but dont use the word sikh, because if you were sikh you wouldnt be a gay. They are slandering the sikh faith and going against the teachings of sri guru granth sahib ji.
Email that amar sangha geeza man, and tell him to keep the word sikh out of it.